Of all the advice I’ve read concerning resolutions, I think the suggestion to condense them into one word works best for me—to have not so much a “to do” list as an underlying principle, an all-encompassing directive. I considered some such words that might guide my actions and thoughts in this new year. Fellow blogger Mari suggests the chosen word be in the form of a verb, so I considered move or do (as in “Do it now” or “Just do it”) to remind myself to keep active and healthy. But then I thought of other areas of my life that could stand a bit of shaping up. Words to improve my mental fitness came to mind. Words such as read or study or learn. And what about my spiritual life? I considered pray and meditate and reflect. My social life? How about serve, connect, communicate?
All of these are good words, but I couldn’t get past the notion that to choose just one concentrated on a single aspect of my life, ignoring others. After much deliberation—at least fifteen minutes’ worth—I finally settled on a word: balance. (It can be a verb, right?)
It didn’t take me long to decide on balance because it’s pretty much been my motto—either consciously or subconsciously—for most of my life. I’ve never really had an overriding passion to pursue one particular endeavor to the exclusion of everything else. I enjoy doing or at least trying my hand at lots of things. There has never been nor is there now a solitary cause to which I want to devote all my waking hours. In the past, I’ve experienced guilt over this because I interpreted my lack of passion as lack of self-discipline or commitment. And forget about achieving success. That’s all about focus and drive, isn’t it?
But success carries different definitions for different people. For some individuals, it does mean achieving that singular, long-sought-after goal—that prize-winning novel, that gold medal, that prestigious job title. For me, it means enjoying a variety of experiences that enrich all aspects of my life. And while keeping them balanced can sometimes be a challenge, that’s my “directive” for this year.
Here’s to 2015—A year in perfect balance!
I like this, Dee Dee! Now I just want a list of all the things that keep you balanced. And maybe a list of things that throw you out of balance. It's like I just CRAVE a checklist. What's up with that? I must be reverting to my teaching days when we were exhorted to create actionable goals, or something like that. It's good to see different approaches to facing the new year. It brings balance to my perspective. ;)ReplyDelete
Nothing wrong with checklists, Sonia. It's just that they work better for some people (i.e. you) than for others (i.e. me). And when things get frantic, even I resort to them just so I'll remember what to do. Speaking of resorting to teaching days, I told Bill if he'd install a bell system in our house, I'd get a lot more done! A lot to be said for extrinsic motivation! :-)Delete
You always make me smile, Dee Dee. I'm pretty sure it's because you have some of me in you - hahahahaha. I went with choosing a word also, one that fits all the realms of life you noted. Mine is "purposeful." However, I tend to get bored with things, so I looked up synonyms so I can shift to a new one each month to keep me moving: intentional, deliberate, motivated...Yeah. I'll let you know how that turned out. ;-)ReplyDelete
Yes, I've detected a spark of "kindred spirit" between us, too. :-)I like the idea of a different word for different months, as I also tend to get bored quickly. Let me know how that plan works for you. "Purposeful" is a good word to start with.Delete
I, too, am embracing the one-word focus - it seems to be a movement, doesn't it? "Balance" is a great one! I tend to do a good job balancing work/play stuff, but no so much on health issues. A work in progress! Thanks for the FBF link!ReplyDelete
Thank you, Jolie!ReplyDelete